False Disqualifiers and Stipulations to Make Her Comfortable

She will be considerably more at ease when it comes time for your date if you make her aware that you may have reservations about meeting up. More than likely, she already has some of her own and by making yours known first, you steal her ‘frame’.

Instead of focusing on hers she is now trying to discredit your reservations or validate your requirements to prove to herself trustworthy and deserving of your time. Although false disqualifiers and stipulations may seem absurd they are incredibly effective ways to conquer any hesitations she has about seeing you again.

Examples:

“So now that we’re txt buddies you might be safe enough to invite to one of our next get-togethers:-)”

“A group of us r going to {event/place} 2night and I’m thinking about inviting you, but only if you promise not to embarrass me :) ~”

“You are invited if you promise to bring bucket loads of… fun energy!”

Text Examples

As you can see, Brittany has no reservations about meeting up whatsoever, because Ryan showed that he might have had reservations first. She then qualified herself by saying that she has a very good fashion sense. It is always a good sign when a girl you like qualifies herself.