Avoid First Date Awkwardness

Make it an Activity

Unfortunately the movie-dinner combo is still a first date standard. What’s unfortunate about going with a tried and true classic?

Well, this is how those dates generally play out: a guy & a girl in a restaurant, sitting across a table from each other making mundane & awkward small talk, avoiding eye contact as they anxiously wait for their meals to arrive. Then when the food does arrive begins the struggle to maintain a conversation while eating and trying to look good at the same time.

Then comes the movie where they sit in silence for an average of 2 hours and their only interaction is likely to be sharing a box of popcorn.

Chances are both of them will leave the date without feeling terribly attracted or excited about each other because they have missed out on the opportunity to get to know each other and build a genuine connection. This doesn’t exactly sound like an ideal first date, does it?

Forego the typical/cliché dates and invite her to do an activity. Anything interactive that keeps the conversation moving forward such as bowling, ice skating or going to an amusement park is a good idea.

This alleviates the pressure for both of you. and allows focus to fall on the activity giving you the opportunity to forge an attraction, get to know each other and increase your comfort level with some casual physical contact in a much more relaxed atmosphere.

This is why inviting her to group event can be a good idea. Group events provide natural conversation starters as there are a variety of things going on. If your friends are in attendance you can introduce her and leave her to get to know them a bit, leaving you free to network and talk to other friends.

This can give you the opportunity to make her to miss your presence. If you have quality friend they may even put in a good word for you.

Note: There is no need to do all the work. Taking a woman to a place that simulates her in a positive way makes her associate those positive feelings with you.